Lessons in Life #4 - "Can I have a hug?"
I had to go to the grocery store. While I was there at the complex, I called my daughter to ask if she wanted anything from there. She
said, if I can, to get some food from ‘Poquito Mas’ in that same shopping complex. I started to walk in front of other stores while looking for it and she was still on the phone as I was walking. While talking to her, I saw this innocent looking
boy of 14 or 15 years of age walking towards me in a white shirt and holding a small bag. Then he turned around and started following me. I stopped and looked at him. He was sort of mumbling and I couldn’t understand what he said. His face was so lost
and he looked so sad. He came closer and just stood there looking straight into my eyes without even a blink. I said, “Are you lost? I am sorry I couldn’t hear you. What were you saying?” Then he said, “Can I have a hug?” with
a really innocent face.
Although it was only a few seconds, still, convoluted part of my brain started to have a debate with the rational part. This is how the deliberation went in my mind:
[ What if this kid is lying and what if
I give him a hug and he turned out to be a pervert? What if this kid is not lost! Is he really lost? He did not seem normal. His face does look very innocent. etc…etc…]
Finally rational part of my brain won the debate. I
felt so bad. I said, sure and I gave him a hug. Then I asked him again “Are you lost?”
He said, “my mom… my mom…will be… uhmmm…here somewhere…hmmm…to pick me up…”
and started to look towards the parking lot. I was also looking around to see if anyone is looking for him. Suddenly he started saying “my mom… my mom” with such an enthusiasm and ran towards a car that was coming closer. I waited until
he sat in the car and made sure the ‘mom’ was the one he was looking for. It appears to be his mom all right.
It is sad that most people, in general, are good. But the social conditions and the circumstances make it harder to help people
in need. May it be for a dollar or a HUG! Isn’t it?
I don’t think I can forget his face ever. I truly wish him all the best in life.
Lessons in Life
#3 - Am I selfish?
Why do we behave the way we do?
It was some time between 1993 and 1995. My workplace was just one block from where we lived back then. I always walked to work. On one fine morning,
I was walking and decided to get some Starbucks Coffee before getting into the bank. As always, there were way too many people inside Starbucks. What is up with people and coffee anyway?
What is the difference between addicting to something that
is called illegal and something that is not? Well, I know what you may already be thinking, “Uh…dah…difference is [illegal]” Well my thinking is…”addiction is addiction” correct? Well okay, …now
to stick with my story….
I was getting close to Starbucks. There were way too many people going in. While I was right behind a few people, my nose was attacked by a stench of really unbearable smell. I wondered what it was!
at the time I was stepping inside, I noticed this homeless person asking for change and everyone was ignoring and walking past him or going into the coffee shop. I did the same too.
While standing in line for 2 or 3 minutes, I kept thinking
about homeless people and how the numbers are increasing and how annoying it is to see those asking for change while you are passing them by! The second I see a homeless person ahead of me, all I could think of was ‘oh no, now I have to pretend to ignore
that this person even existed! It is so painful to walk by him/her.’ Most of us in general, are self-centered whether anyone agrees or not.
Why am I feeling guilty? In my defense….I did not cause him/her to be homeless! This was my
Most homeless people started increasing since Vietnam war and most of them are veterans. There may be reasons including social, mental, and economic just to name a few out of many. Most of these people fought for their country for
reasons, which were absurd. When they started they were young and strong both mentally and physically. If they were not physically fit they were trained for it. They fought for a cause they thought was patriotic and they fought with enthusiasm. A lot of them
gave their lives for their country. When they came back the ghosts from the past did not let them be. They haunted them until their sanity is gone. They lost families, peace of mind and got addicted to drugs. Now they are almost considered nobody.
These were some of the awful, conflicting and sad thoughts came into my mind while still waiting for my turn to get my coffee. My turn came and the girl at the counter greeted me with a smile and a “Good morning”. I reciprocated. She said
once again with a smile “What can I get you?”
Without even having a second thought I said “2 café Mocha non-fat with whipped cream please” also with a smile. While she was handing over the order to another girl, I realized
I ordered 2 café mocha!! Then a smile came on to my face. I took both cups of coffee and stepped outside and went to the homeless person and said, “Hi would you like some coffee”.
The look on his face was speechless. I wish
I had a camera to take a picture of his face. Here was a homeless guy with really dirty and messy clothes, with equally messy hair and on top of it emanating an awful smell but his face just lit up with the question I asked and I just didn’t have words
to explain how I felt. That was the most beautiful face with the happiest smile I had seen that day. He said thank you several times and took the coffee with a heartfelt gratitude. I said “you are welcome, have a nice day” and walked away
to my work. That feeling can never be able to explain completely as to how I felt that day. After all, all I did was just gave him a cup of coffee but doing something as simple as that can really make one feel happy at that moment.
for anything else, we should at least help others within our limits whenever an opportunity arises so WE can be happy.
I know this sounds selfish but hey it works for me to be okay with everything in life.
Lessons in Life #2 - How do you describe stupidity? Am I stupid?
Is it Ignorance, Rudeness, Obnoxiousness, Futility, being vain…I can keep adding more words to describe what it is
but decided not to. I know you get the picture. Correct?
I thought I would share an incident that happened to me this past weekend.
I went to a store to buy some stuff. I was maneuvering my cart as usual through those aisles, while
picking the stuff and throwing it into the cart. Next, I went to the aisle where the Chamomile tea was.
I went a few yards and I saw this lady with her cart, coming my way. I tried to move my cart as much as possible. But she left her cart right
in the middle and started to look for whatever she was looking for.
I waited to see if she would be done in a few seconds….I gave her a minute. She was very nonchalant and ignoring the fact I was right in front of her and took her own sweet
time.. I finally said to her in a very low tone of voice “excuse me…” She heard but ignored me. It was too obvious she was being a jerk. I waited a few more seconds. Then I cleared my throat and said to her “Excuse me…I need
to get to the other side, could you please move your cart?” in a very pleasant manner.
I was already in the middle of the aisle. She looked at me with a really angry face and said, “You go back. I am still looking here.” I was
dumbfounded. I said, “Go back? Where? I just want you to move your cart so I can go forward..” She got angry! I have no idea why. She said, “I am not moving, you go back and go around”.
Uhmmm…what just happened?
I don’t think I have done anything wrong. Why was she angry with me?
At this point, another lady came behind me. I guess she heard the way this angry lady was speaking to me. She said to the angry lady “You cannot talk like that with
other people. Mind your manners. You are in America now. Learn to be polite.”
At first, I thought they both are together since she had the same accent as this angry lady. But then, the angry lady started to yell at this nice lady “Who
the hell are you to tell me how to talk? You go back. Go back both of you wherever you came from” The nice lady rolled her eyes and left from that aisle.
Hmmm. Does not add up! I still kept my cool. But at this point, I made a mistake. I
laughed. While laughing, I looked straight into her eyes.
That is when she lost it, her sanity that is. Oh, wait. She doesn’t have that to begin with. Dah!
She said, “Don’t be stupid, just turn around and go back.”
While she was saying that, my face was still filled with that sarcastic laughter. But, as soon as she finished her sentence I finished laughing.
I heard what she said. Boy oh boy, …she really invoked my real self out. She should not have
done that. My face changed. When I get angry, I become a completely different person. My face becomes grotesque and scary!!! My voice becomes even scarier and intimidating.
With that scary face, I went close to her and said in a low but very assured
tone “What did you just call me?” She stepped back a bit. I asked her again “What did you call me? Did you just call me stupid?” Her tone changed now. She said, “ No I did not say you are stupid I said don’t be stupid”.
Huhmmmm…what? Let me get to the dictionary in my brain a bit…. Is there a difference?
Then I looked straight into her face once again and said “Okay, well let me tell you this. I am saying YOU ARE stupid. Now move your cart
back”. I spoke loudly and that followed with a question to the store “Is anyone here who can help me have this lady move her cart please?”. I did not move an inch until one of the store attendants came over and pulled her cart back so I can
move forward. I thanked the guy.
It was obvious there is something wrong with her. after a few minutes, I saw that second lady in another area and she said to me “She has a devil in her. It has nothing to do with you. Just ignore her”.
I thanked her for trying to be supportive and moved on to the counter to pay.
After all is done, I was about to leave. The girl at the counter said, “Have a good one”. I said, “Thank you, you too have a good day”. Then
I was about to turn towards the exit door. Suddenly, I heard a loud, angry and scary voice that yelled in my face with an even scary face “GOOD DAY”. I was startled and so did the rest of the customers in line and the lines next to mine.. Then
That bad lady left with her stuff with a really angry face.
I looked at everyone. Everyone looked at me with puzzled faces. I made a face shrugged my shoulders and laughed. They all laughed too.
Of course, they had no idea what happened
a few minutes back. I am positive they all thought that lady was weird. Of course, she was. She ‘had a devil in her’. Ha ha ha.
I cannot help but thank her for creating that situation. Because of it I am able to share this incident
with all of you.
I thank you, angry lady. I wish you to have a better life from now on. Maybe you should learn how to breathe by taking up yoga classes, better yet 'Laughter Yoga' would do you good. That should solve all your problems. LOL!
Lessons in Life #1 - Hope you will have a better day!
Oh…MY Gunness…!!! (That is short for goodness!!! LOL!)
When I heard this from
my daughter I was speechless!!!
My daughter went to get some coffee at Starbucks drive through. There was an SUV in front of her car. In front of that SUV there was another car. The lady in that car was ordering.
But the person
in the SUV was getting agitated because the car in front of him was not moving! He started to express his anger by using his hands in an agitated manner by showing his middle finger. That guy was getting mad at the lady for not moving away from the window.
There was no way she could move without taking what she ordered. He started to yell at her by using obscene words. “ B#@$%…. move forward”.
The lady in the car started laughing and tried to tell him with hand gestures
that she could not move because she was waiting for her order.
The guy started to yell at her by saying “ You retarded B#@$%….” and honked. She couldn’t move. Again he honked.
At this point, the lady
got down from her car and went to the guy in SUV and said to him, in a pleasant way “Can you see… I cannot move my car because I am waiting for my order. If you can wait for a minute or two, I can take my order and leave”. Then she
goes back to her car. He again yells at her “ You F@&$…ing B&%#@….” and points his middle finger pointing up in the sky for her to see…again!
She just ignores him. The lady was talking to the attendant
who was taking the order. She was telling ‘something’ in a low voice. After a minute or so she takes her stuff and leaves.
Now it is the SUV guy’s turn to order. He pulls towards the window. SUV guy ordered his Coffee. The
attendant hands him over his stuff and says to him, “You do not have to pay sir. The lady who just left paid for your coffee and she wanted me to convey to you that she hopes ‘you have a better day’. The attendant repeated the same twice.
I wish we could all be like this lady when things get rough.
Hats off to her
What is Life?
I have some free time
I go for shopping.
what you ask?
I have no idea!
I am strolling in the store
I see something I like
I go close to IT to see more
As a matter of fact I come to love IT
I decided to
I tried to pick IT up
I see other things hatched on to IT
Those I don't really care for
But those come with IT
I want that one thing
I know for sure
IT gives me immense pleasure
just by looking at IT
So I go for all
I guess that IS Life